Why Reform like a Woman?

Why Reform like a Woman?

There is a movement happening, and much to my dismay, it is not headed in the direction I was hoping for.

Our culture, though always derailed, does not care to hide it anymore. The wickedness of the hearts of people no longer finds it beneficial to practice morality for the sake of their identity because now the senseless and unthinkable are applauded and encouraged.

On this very slippery slope of our new social construct, is unfortunately, the Church. We are caught in a place of colloquialisms in the form of hashtags, and God’s Word.

#Rapecultureiswhen #reproductiverights #whyimarch #Lovewins

People groups shouting out into the cyber world that they deserve love, respect, and equality. As Christians, absolutely, we love our neighbor. We want equality for all because we are all made in the image of God.

But, wait a minute… #whyimarch became about #reproductiverights–and we all know the only “right” they’re fighting for is the right to murder unborn children.

#Lovewins is about people who are so embedded in their sin and self-love that they openly defy the design of God. In reality, this culture breeds nothing but death. There is no light in darkness–the Bible tells me so.

This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light. If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. –1 John 5-6

In walks Situational Gnosticism. People in love with their sin begin pulling at our heart strings and suddenly, things are not so black and white anymore–or are they? Because we’re sinners, it’s easy to try to justify and rationalize away our sin. It’s completely within our nature to do so. However, God’s law sets the standard and the creature has no right to put his Creator on trial.

In these moments when we learn of our neighbors’ great despair, yes, have empathy! Remember the pit of filth, so darkened by your own sin, that you could not see your hand in front of your face, and love your neighbor. Love your neighbor enough to tell them that their life is destroying them. Offering the hope of salvation in the Gospel is completely pointless if people do not know what they need to be saved from. People need to hear God’s Law and His wrath before they can comprehend the hope in Christ and His fulfillment of it.

Here we are. We are that point of this blog, Reforming Like a Woman. Why? Well, I am no man! Praise the Lord! I do not mean this in the, “I don’t need no man” single “woman” mantra.

I guess it may be good to share a bit about myself. I use to be a closet feminist. Though I was submissive in word, my heart was wicked indeed. (Pun intended.) I was more than unhappy that God had made me as a woman and even more unhappy with His design for marriage–specifically mine. I just knew that the idea of gender roles was wrong and I was simply a woman because I am.


I watched my world crash and burn, and admittedly so, a lot at my own hand.

Being a biological female alone did not make me feminine. Feminity is not expressed solely through outward appearance, biology, or style. 1 Peter 3 makes it clear it is truly a matter of the heart.

So Reforming Like a Woman means embracing your feminity and honoring God’s design for you as a woman. In a culture where women so desperately want to be men, love that you are a woman. Do not buy into the lies that child-bearing is a burden. I’m certain that God meant it when He called children a blessing and a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3). I’m also certain that when we (yes, myself included) view them as burdens, we are acting completely self-consumed in those moments. So, nurture your child even if you weren’t nurtured. If you don’t know how to do this, ask for help. (Titus 2) Serve your husband. Surpass him with showing him honor. He needs it and desires it. You will be last on your own agenda, but the most needed and sought after person in your home. It truly is beautiful.

Reforming Like a Woman also involves knowing God. Study His word and hold to solid, biblical theology and doctrine. This is essential. There is so much “Christian women’s literature” is floating around out there that is full of nonsense and emotional fluff. The Bible tells us to be alert, self-controlled, and sober-minded. This is not referring to our intake of mind altering substances (although drunkenness and recreational drug use are prohibited by God) but, our hearts are deceitfully wicked and we should not be “tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine” (Ephesians 4:14)”

It’s not about your self-worth in Jesus because frankly, it’s not about you at all. It is about knowing Him. It is about glorifying Him. It is about going into all the nations and making disciples.

So fight for the gospel, because beautiful are the feet. Resist culture, and reform like a woman.

Katelyn Caswell

Katelyn Caswell

Redeemed. Reformed. Married to my high school sweetheart. Mother of three sweet and spirited daughters.
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Redeemed. Reformed. Married to my high school sweetheart. Mother of three sweet and spirited daughters.

Comments ( 4 )

  1. ReplyKristi
    Absolutely beautifully stated. It seems the voices which speak biblical TRUTH are becoming more refined and clear as the apostate nonsense swallowing up evangelical Christianity becomes more shrill and ridiculous by the day! I marvel at people I once believed to be pillars of the faith being enticed away by emotionalism, syncretism and mysticism. Thank you, Katelyn for this refreshing and encouraging essay. Godspeed, dear sister.
    • ReplyAuthorKatelyn Caswell
      Thank you so much for your kind words! So encouraging!
  2. ReplyAmy Jo
    I believe you have not been reformed by brokenhearted compassion, although every thing you say is biblical and true your words seem to lack compassion towards the people God sent you here to encourage. Didn't Jesu also look upon entire crowds with compassion and utter words like forgive them Father for they know not what they do? I am blessed to be a woman and always have been able to function in my conviction of bearing children and mothering them....I realize now that this sweet intention of the heart only could come from Christ Himself drawing me out of Darkness. Thank you for your argument, I believe you may be more successful at encouragement if you truly let your heart break for the people you don't understand but are trying to reach.
    • ReplyAuthorKatelyn Caswell
      I appreciate your words and being bold enough to share :)